A happy ending for Rudi

Today I said goodbye to Rudi. It’s been one year since I met her, one year since I learned about her life story. She was walking down a long dusty Mafambisse road, tired and defeated. She had a young boy on her back, too young to be her own child. I stopped the vehicle and asked if she would like a lift? She said ‘no,’ as her home was only a few hundred metres away. She didn’t take the lift, but she did tell me a little bit about herself…

Rudi's road     Rudi portrait

I did not know then how deeply she would affect me and how in the coming year, I would get to know her and learn about her incredible story.

Today was a big day in that I have finally found a solid solution for Rudi. Someone to care!!! Rudi was completely abandoned 10 days ago and her survival was at stake. I felt I had to try and find someone to look after her; to house her, to feed her and care for her when she becomes ill. Especially since we are moving to Malawi tomorrow and I will be unable to check on her like I have done in the past year.

Rudi is at the stage in her life that she needs hands on care. At the same time, she is still bubbling with life and wants to live! I had 10 days to find someone who cares.

It is through the internet that I have found a solution for Rudi. In fact, for me this experience has demonstrated how powerful the internet can be.  And I’d like to say thank you to all my readers for your support and for contacting me with your ideas. It is through my readers that I got  direction about where to start with regards to helping her.

To cut a long story short, I was advised to contact a missionery in Dondo who has experience in caring for widows. And she suggested I visit the department of ‘Repartecao dos Assuntos da Mulher e Accao social Dondo.’

Dondo social services

They suggested that Rudi go to a government facility called Nhangau which houses and takes care of abandoned people. It’s a case of ‘help’ being available but no-one knows about it! I was both excited and relieved that a place like this exists in this area.  But the best part was seeing Rudi’s smile when we told her the news, that we have a solution.

Big smiles     Ride Nhangau

We cracked on with the paperwork. We had to find the secretary of her district and get a declaration letter stating that she has no-one to care for her. We went in search of the secretary at 5 in the morning. We meandered through shacks and shamba’s with the moon still shining. Finally we found him and managed to make an appointment with him for 2pm after his shift in the factory.

Early morning mission     Block 9 Secretary

By then end of the day, we had completed all the documents necessary which is unheard of when it comes to completing paperwork in Mozambique!  I must commend the social services department for being so helpful and efficient.

This morning we met Rudi at her shack in Mafambisse and packed all her belongings into the vehicle for the last time. To Nhangau it is!

Rudi's house    Celebrating

 I was nervous to see Nhangau. Would it be suitable for Rudi? This was my last chance to help her.

Nhangau

I have passed Nhangau many times on our way to Rio Sevane beach, but had never noticed it. For those of you who are not familiar with Mozambique, do not be deceived by the shabby paint work of the entrance or tatty road sign. I was ecstatic to find that Nhangau has everything Rudi needs. In fact she has a 2 bedroom house and veranda all to herself. She has electricity and a bed to sleep on opposed to sleeping on a reed mat.  She even has mosquito gauze on her windows. There is a kitchen that caters for the 70 or so other residents. There is a hospital only 50 metres away. There is running water and cherry on the top, there are new friends to make! This is perfect for Rudi and she couldn’t be happier!

Helping hand      Possessions

A room      Introductions

 

My favourite scene today was when 2 very old widows came up to Rudi to introduce themselves. They were warm and friendly and happy to see her. I suspect they will become great friends. After feeling unwanted for so long, she now has a place where she belongs and is with people who have come from similar circumstances. I believe there is great potential here for a happy ending.

New friendships    New friends

” The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

-Nelson Mandela

Finding a solid solution for Rudi has been a challenge. I have learned a lot about myself during this experience, a lot about the Mozambican culture and the issues the country is experiencing on a social level. I have also learned an important lesson about how to help. Often, the way I wanted to help, was not sustainable and sometimes not even relevant. There were numerous things I tried, often ending in disappointment. And I realise now that during the course of me trying to find a sustainable solution for Rudi, I had to learn about the culture, the laws and the issues. I had to learn about Rudi’s reality before I could be effective. My way was not the way.

I am thankful and relieved that I found out about Nhangau just in time! And all I can do now is hope; hope that Rudi feels she belongs, that she no longer feels loneliness, that she is well cared for and that the final chapter of her life is a happy one.

Final goodbye
Goodbye Rudi!

Goodbye Rudi and Goodbye Mozambique! I’ve truly loved our time in Mozambique and would not change a thing! I will be blogging more on Mozambique in the future, but very soon, my blog will be introduced to Malawi!

“Live authentically, and savour each precious moment of your journey; because the moment you arrive at a destination, another journey begins,”

-Joe Kean

If anyone is interested in Rudi’s story, here are the blog post links from beginning to end:

1. – https://africafarandwide.wordpress.com/2013/02/22/a-token-plastic-elephant-my-silent-promise/

2. – https://africafarandwide.wordpress.com/2013/03/21/the-fallen-angel-in-the-pit-of-poverty-rudi/

3. – https://africafarandwide.wordpress.com/2013/05/06/bean-happy/

4. – https://africafarandwide.wordpress.com/2014/06/09/10-days-left-to-find-someone-who-cares/

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21 Replies to “A happy ending for Rudi”

  1. I am so happy to read that Rudi is safe now, and you found a way to help her and leave her in safe hands. So impressed and overwhelmed with your kindness and tenacity to help her and her family. All the best to you in Malawi and to Rudi with her new life and friends.

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  2. I’m interested in what you will be doing in Malawi
    I am putting together a program to work with TBAs and I am trying to decide whether to come to Malawi or Botswana…

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  3. I am so relieved and happy for Rudi – and you. Because it was so clear that you cared for her very much and really needed to have her taken care of before you left Mozambique. As needy as Rudi seemed, she must have given you something, too, that made you look after her the way you did. The bond between the two of you transcends age and culture…. congratulations on the happy ending. Time to exhale.

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  4. Komentáře mluví o krásném činu, chci říci že svět je nespravedlivý a krutý a každý by měl udělat něco dobrého, aby se to změnilo k lepšímu.

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  5. I’m amazed by your perseverance and love. Wonderful photos of a special story. May Rudi be blessed in her new home and may you and yours be blessed in yours. Safe travels. Regards, Margie

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  6. What a moving end to Rudi’s story and such a relief for you. I, too, read it with tears in my eyes and am in awe of the way that you have cared for and about Rudi. You have so much passion and caring in you and I am proud to be your Mom. Well done my girl!

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  7. Heartwarming transition for Rudi.I and I’m sure anyone following this story feel a great sense of relief – and well deserved praise towards you, for your passion, caring and perseverance. A wonderful story. Looking forward to reading about your next chapter in Malawi. M

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  8. It’s not how you run the race but how you finish it! Lianne – your race has just started in your life, and if this is an indication of what is in store for you throughout the rest of your days, you surely will finish it with love, peace, humblness, and happiness in your heart, knowing you have always tried and achieved what has always been your best. Well done my good and faithful friend – I have read this with tears in my eyes, knowing you can close this chapter with peace and contentment. May the blessings you have given out to Rudi, be returned to you ten fold. With love – Lyn x

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  9. What an amazing story, Lianne! We are full of admiration on your determination, loving care of Rudi. She is so fortunate to have crossed your path, and will end her days in safety and happiness. OH! WELL DONE! We wish you all bon voyage, lots of happiness, excitment on your new adventure in Malawi! Will miss you when we visit Sue and Charles in July. Now looking forward to Mana game count with Sally.love from us all.

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  10. I felt your pain in the previous post, and have been following your love and care for Rudi over the months. The power of your love and determination is inspiring, my friend; and I am happy for the success you created, and the new life that Rudi now has. 🙂

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  11. What a marvellous ending ~ you have achieved more for humanity than many achieve in a whole lifetime. What a blessing for Rudi to have had you.

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  12. What a wonderful outcome for this lady who deserves to live her last years with the security of a home and people who care about her. I’m happy for you too because now you can move on without feeling guilty about leaving her and enjoy your new adventures.

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  13. It’s amazing what you have done for Rudi. Takes courage and humanity – both sorely lacking in most of us these days. Making a difference in even one person’s life is a great deal and I really admire you for that. Wish Rudi a great life in her new home and to you too in Malawi.

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